Lost Weight But Still Insecure? Here’s Why

There are many people who, despite achieving the goals they had set for themselves and fulfilling each of the objectives, do not reach that point of self-love and self-confidence that they were looking for. What’s more, it is quite common for the opposite to happen, many feel even worse than before.

What are we doing wrong?

The main reason is the enormous investment in advertising designed and aimed at manipulating people. Make believe that the only thing standing between you and your dream life is the shape of your body. This type of marketing is effective because people want to believe it. The problem is not difficult to solve.

We are going to list some of the most common reasons why people feel insecure, even after achieving their goals:

1. Your expectations were unrealistic: Many people think that when they achieve their training goals they will be perfect. Before they were shy and insecure… once they meet their goals, everything will be perfect. Of course, you’re not going to stop being shy about losing 10 kilos… Please, never think in this direction! Because you are already starting badly.
2. Your self-talk didn’t change: Many people believe that when they achieve their fitness goals, they will finally stop being negative and self-critical. They assume that their body is the cause of their negative self-talk, so changing their body will automatically change that behavior. If you have spent your entire life focusing on your flaws, comparing yourself to others, and criticizing yourself, then you will be very skilled at doing this. It takes time and practice to break negative mental habits, and even more time and practice to improve at positive ones. If you change your body without changing your mind, your brain will simply find new flaws to focus on, new people to compare yourself to, and new things to criticize.
3. Your new habits were not sustainable: Whatever you do to achieve your body transformation, you must always continue doing it to maintain it. That being said, they are not necessarily supposed to maintain that shape but people do often think that there will be an end to their goal and that when they reach their destination, they will stay there forever. And yet, there is no such endpoint, it is just a long journey.
4. They control their own life too much: when they start to make changes, the effort is conscious; you are paying close attention to each behavioral lesson. When it comes to the body, people become very vigilant about the behaviors that led to their success. They are aware of how much effort it took them to get where they are and they feel fearful, even obsessively, of ruining everything. That’s why they pay attention to every little detail. In a way, they may be right but if you don’t control it you will end up living in constant fear, and this is not healthy either.

Focusing on how you see yourself all the time, even in a positive way, strengthens the link between appearance and self-esteem. It’s easy especially when you see that someone is losing weight and getting that shape they were looking for. But what happens when you get used to your new body and the compliments decrease? Who else are you? What else do you have to offer people? What else is your confidence due to?

Your sense of self-worth should be tied to something that cannot be changed, not something that is by nature meant to be.